Are you trying to be a perfect mom? You are not alone. Most moms strive for perfection and this is the main reason why they think they are bad moms. The thing is, there is no such thing as a perfect mom and nobody is actually perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and it’s not as bad as you think. If you want to make your experience of motherhood better, here are several reasons to stop trying to be a perfect mom.
1. CHILDREN WILL STRIVE FOR PERFECTION.
When you are trying to do everything perfectly and you are obsessed with being perfect, your children will strive for perfection too. They will be afraid to make mistakes and they will have very low self-esteem. Can you forgive yourself when you make a mistake? Don’t dwell on your past failures and mistakes. When you make a mistake, there’s actually a lesson for you to learn. Learning from mistakes helps your children develop and grow and you should realize it now when they are small.
2. DO YOUR BEST
I’ve always told my sons and daughters that I don’t expect perfection out of them in anything they do, however, I expect them to do their best. They know I give myself permission to make mistakes, but I always do my best. Parents set examples for kids, so stop trying to be a perfect mom, instead focus on being the best mother you can be and allow yourself room for some imperfections. Your children will do their best and will know that it’s okay to make mistakes every now and then.
3. THE PERFECT MOM DOESN’T EXIST
Nobody is perfect and the perfect mom doesn’t exist. When you’re trying to be a perfect mother, you’re setting the bar so high that it is impossible to reach. It’s possible to be a great mom, but not perfect. Realize it and start enjoying your motherhood. It’s wonderful to be a mother, so don’t waste your time attempting to make everything perfect.
4. YOU’RE STRESSING YOUR FAMILY OUT
Striving for perfection is a hollow goal that can never be reached. When one family member strives for perfection, the whole family suffers. It leads to misunderstandings and can even cause lots of fights. We all want a happy family and I think this is a sound reason to stop trying to be a perfect mom.
5. YOU’RE STRESSING YOURSELF OUT
Striving for perfection is extremely stressful. Stress affects your health and robs you of your joy. Keep in mind that perfectionist mindset makes people miserable setting unrealistic expectations. Do your best, be happy and be confident in being the mom that you are. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
6. YOU CAN BECOME UNBALANCED
If you’re focused on one area of life, you can become unbalanced and it’s a bad thing. While being a mom is an important position and one of your top priorities, it’s unhealthy to focus only on it. You may be a girlfriend, a wife, a sister, a daughter or an employee. These positions need effort and attention, too, so don’t forget about them.
7. MAKE PROGRESS
Instead of trying to be a perfect mom, trying to make progress in all areas of motherhood. Again, mistakes are good and you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. Realize that you are a wonderful mother and wife. You don’t have to be an ideal mother. Your children love you for who you are, remember it.
No matter how hard you try, perfect moms don’t exist. Choose to be intentional with what you can do to bring value to your family instead of spending your time dwelling on your mistakes. Are you striving for perfection?